thirty six trips around the sun

Today is my last as a 35 year old.

While I don’t usually get philosophical about birthdays, I would like to reflect on my last rotation around the sun…

This past year has seen a lot of change in my life and realisation of what changes need to be made in order to reach my/our goals.

Jay and I moved from our beloved rented sky-home apartment in Pyrmont in order to knuckle down and save some money for a deposit to buy our own (overly-expensive) Pyrmont apartment! Seeing a financial adviser was a rude shock in my spending habits; and it’s been very difficult and a daily challenge for me to reign in my spending and not have the ‘I deserve it now’ mentality. It’s a work in progress…

My work has been a constant challenge; from coming out of a project which was a solid year on a client site working exclusively for them, to managing a multimillion dollar global project and then having to audit and remediate 4 projects back to back that were off the rails with hostile clients, it’s been very tough. Some days I felt powerful and confident, and others I would duck into the bathrooms and have a cry. Many sleepless nights on deployments or worrying about my workload, but when I sum it all up and take time to reflect, it’s been character building and has provided me with more experience to be better in my career. My career hasn’t taken the path I thought it would when I was starting out, but most days I like what I do and the company which I work for. I did some study too which was hard but rewarding.

My extended family has had a tough year; My cousins lost their Mum, who I hadn’t seen in years, but who I love and respect deeply.
My father-in-law is almost 2 years into battling cancer, which is terminal however he’s going through palliative chemo and it’s still working although there are good and bad days, like all cancer treatments.
My brother ‘walked out’ of rehab 6 months into a 12 month program and I’ve been so angry with him I haven’t spoken to him since February. I just had enough of all of the lies and manipulation. It’s hard because I just want to magically fix his addiction and the bad choices he makes with his life because of it, but I can’t. I can’t continue to bail him out and have my emotions manipulated. I love him deeply but after trying every way to get through to him, my silence is my last resort.
On the upside I have had a few conversations with my estranged father, which have been good. It’s obvious that our relationship will never be the same as it was, he’s such an oddity, but I have completely let go of the anger and hurt I felt and carried around with me for 10+ years. It’s not so much a ‘light at the end of the tunnel’ but rather a ‘soft glow’ that I can see with our future relationship.
I didn’t get to see much of my most darling Mum this year, with her travelling around Australia, but we had a few days here and there which was nice. I miss her terribly and wish she just lived closer dammit.
On the upside, I have grown a lot closer to my sister-in-law this year. It’s always been hard for Jay because he is so much younger than his siblings so it was like they always saw him as “younger” but gradually over time that perception has been changing and this year we’ve had some quality time with one of his sisters and her family and I really love and respect them. As I get older I am starting to appreciate family a bit more.

Jay & I celebrated our 9th wedding anniversary earlier this month. I continue to be in awe of my husband, who is just brilliant, kind, caring, funny, so smart and handsome. We’ve been together 19 years (high-school sweethearts) and he still gives me butterflies. I’m very thankful for him.

The dynamics of many of my friendships changed this year; I made new friends, reconnected with old friends and farewelled some too. One of my best friends said something to me the other day about how some people just come into your life for a finite time where your friendship is intense and has a specific purpose. Afterwards you stay in touch and you’re still friends but the need has been met and the intensity has faded. Other friends are always there, in the background, and you know your love and affection will always be constant no matter the situation. I think it’s true and take comfort in that idea.

This last year my fitness declined a little as different priorities took over, but I recently did the Whole30 which kicked off my desire to make my fitness a priority once again. Im going to do the 12WBT again in the lead up to the New Year; with the goal to drop a few kgs before summer and really just get back into a solid routine. I’m apprehensively excited about it!

I didn’t do much travelling this year; we had a week holiday in Byron Bay in April which was relaxing although the weather was disappointing for a beachside vacation. I took a week off in September just to chill. Jay was at work, so I had some alone time to do day trips out of the city, walk with Harley, see some movies and do some cooking. It was therapeutic.

Last night I celebrated my impending birthday with close friends Janine, Ian, Jared, Pete and of course Jay. We went to a fancy bar for cocktails and then to an even fancier restaurant to dinner. It was so much fun! Here’s a few snaps of our night….

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With all that in mind, it’s been a busy year but a good one!

Here’s to a better 36th trip round the sun!

sparkles, bubbles & girlfriends

I had a most delicious weekend with two of my oldest & dearest friends.

I’ve known Tam since we were in grade 3 and Gracie since grade 5.

Anytime we get together it’s simply soul cleansing fun.

It was Tam’s birthday last week and Gracie’s birthday in a couple of weeks, so we  had some fun celebrating 35!

Here’s what we got up to…

mani / pedi delight!
mani / pedi delight!
kicking off the evening on my balcony with a bottle of Veuve
perfect pedi’s & a bottle of Veuve
Tam, Gracie, me
Tam, Gracie & moi
and it's on for the posers
and it’s on for the posers (L-R) Gracue, Tam, me
cocktails at Baxter Inn with Charlie the bartender
cocktails at Baxter Inn with Charlie the bartender
dinner at Felix at The Ivy
dinner at Felix at The Ivy
gorgeous Tam
gorgeous Tam
the pout always seems like a good idea at the time!
Gracie & me

We had brunch this morning with Jay & Harley before the girls headed back home to Newcastle.

How was your weekend?

week in instagram

I had the most shocking work week last week. Working on a project for the Government meant I was hijacked into their End of Financial Year hurricane; resulting in zero time to blog but I still managed to have a little fun with a fairly full social calendar!

Here’s what I got up to, courtesy of my Instagram feed…

a little bit of rain couldn't keep Harley & I indoors for our early morning workout
sunrise over the harbour
this week's beautiful blooms
this week’s beautiful blooms
Tuesday night dinner club; Kazbah in Darling Harbour
Tuesday night dinner club; Kazbah in Darling Harbour
rainy cityscape
rainy cityscape
Thursday night Idina Mendel concert at the Opera House
Thursday night Idina Mendel concert at the Opera House
my girlfriends Grace (top left) & Tam (top right) with me at the Idina concert!
my girlfriends Grace (top left) & Tam (top right) with me at the Idina concert!
inside the Opera House...awaiting the talent
inside the Opera House…awaiting the talent
Saturday outfit; Louis Vuitton & Witchery
Saturday outfit; Louis Vuitton & Witchery
paaaartaaaay with my peeps!!! from Left: Jay, Pete, Jared, Geoff & Michelle
paaaartaaaay with my peeps!!! from Left: Jay, Pete, Jared, Geoff & Michelle
mucking around with Mands
mucking around with Mands
Sunday chill out sesh with my tea
Sunday chill out sesh with my tea

what’s everyone been up to?

xx

instaweek | my week in instagram

You wouldn’t know it’s approaching winter here in Sydney. There hasn’t been a cloud in the sky for days and today the top temp was 30°C (86°F)!
Gorgeous weather people, which is making me very happy indeed!

Here’s what I got up to in the past week…

introducing Mr & Mrs Basu Roy; Shookie & Raj
introducing Mr & Mrs Basu Roy; Shookie & Raj
photo booth fun! Jay, me, Geoff & Mich
photo booth fun! Jay, me, Geoff & Mich
Mum & Harley
my gorgeous Mum & Harley
mmmm foooood!
mmmm foooood! steak with balsamic onions and goats feta, tomato & avocado salad
ANZAC day
flags at half-mast; celebrating & remembering the troops on ANZAC day
Harley got featured on @instas_cutest_pet
Harley got featured on @instas_cutest_pet because he’s so damn cute!
my favourite perfume
liquid gold…my favourite perfume
running with Harley - he's the black dot way up ahead! And yes that's the Sydney Harbour Bridge!
morning run with Harley – he’s the black dot way up ahead! Yep, that’s the Sydney Harbour Bridge!
tunes on the car stereo; the awesome Chet Faker
tunes on the car stereo; the awesome Chet Faker
eggcellent! mucking around with the dirty dozen...
eggcellent! mucking around with the dirty dozen…
workout
solid workout
my buddy Harley
my buddy Harley
today's lacy outfit
today’s lacy outfit

Happy Weekend!

xox

book wreath | christmas how to

Imagine this; it’s 11pm on a Saturday night and we’ve just left a friends birthday dinner and decide to pop into the nearby supermarket to pick up some brekkie items. I’m scuttling around in my heels on the unfamiliar isles (it’s not my local) trying to find bagels, smoked salmon, cream cheese, etc and then realise I’ve lost Jay. After 5 minutes of searching (it took a lot of restraint not to call out or whistle for him) I found him mesmerized standing in front of the real Christmas trees, sniffing them. Like a weirdo.

Every successful relationship has two people who compliment each other; sometimes opposites attract (Jay likes chocolate & I like strawberry; I’m an earlybird & he’s a late owl) and other times you’re perfectly in tune (we both have a eclectic taste in music; hiphop, rap, country, folk, dub, classical; we love action & gory movies). Of course the lists go on & on, but you get the drift!

Christmas is one of the times where opposites prevail; while Jay loves Christmas – the trees, the decorations, the festivities, the carols and all the fuss, I couldn’t give a rats arse about it. Seriously, ever since I was a kid I’ve always been disappointed with Christmas. Don’t get me wrong, I like seeing everyone else happy about the festivities, but I just can’t muster them myself.

So after nearly losing my husband to a pine tree in Neutral Bay Woolworths, I decided to introduce some festive decorations into our abode.

I’ve seen wreaths made from book pages on Pinterest for a while and finally decided to tackle the DIY project!

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What you’ll need:

  • a wreath*
  • hot glue gun & glue sticks
  • old book (best without pictures), torn & made into cones
  • spray adhesive
  • glitter
  • paper to cover your workspace (no hot glue on my dining table!)
  • hook to hang on (I used a 3M removable hook)
little paper cones
little paper cones
Librarians look away!
Librarians look away!

*goodness me, it’s hard to find a DIY wreath in Sydney! Wreaths aren’t very popular so I guess people dont make them so after spending a good day searching for a plain foam wreath, I ended up having to make my own from the backing of an ugly bauble wreath I bought at the discount shop.

For the cones, I did it all free-hand but tried to keep them similar sized except for the most inner ring which were made from half-pages.

Step 1: glue first layer of paper cones
Step 1: glue first layer of paper cones

I started by gluing the cones to the 3, 6, 9, 12 o’clocks on the wreath face. That way it gave me a guide as to where to place the rest of the them.

Step 2: the second layer goes down
Step 2: the second layer goes down
Step 3: then the third layer of cones are hot glued
Step 3: then the third layer of cones are hot glued

Make sure you use enough hot glue so that the whole wreath will be stable when it’s finished.

Step 4: final inner circle of smaller cones is glued in place
Step 4: final inner circle of smaller cones is glued in place

The good thing about working with hot glue is that it dries almost instantly. So no need to wait for hours til you can move on to the final steps!

Step 5: spray adhesive & gold glitter
Step 5: spray adhesive & gold glitter

Take your wreath outside, spray with adhesive then sprinkle with glitter. Presto!

Hang on the door / wall!
Hang on the door / wall!
Christmas glittery goodness!
Christmas glittery goodness!
my front door
my front door

happyholidays