One thing that you probably don’t know about me is that I’m a clean freak. Think Monica Geller clean freak. Uncleanliness & disorder make me very anxious and stressed.
Just ask my two girlfriends Grace & Tam, who have helped me obsessively clean on a Friday afternoon or have been present for a Melly meltdown when perceived filthiness is overwhelming!
Earlier this year I saw a therapist for a couple of months to help work through some issues (not specifically cleanliness related!) but she helped teach me how not to sweat the small stuff. Her diagnosis? That I’m self-actualised, highly demanding, emotionally rational but let anxiety build up inside me while I maintain an easy going exterior. It amazed me how talking to a complete stranger helped me articulate my issues and figure out how to work to resolve them all in a couple of short months.
While many of us often have deeper rooted issues to work through, just about all of us can relate to anxiety, frustration, anger or exasperation regarding the the smallest things. Hashtag first world problems!
So you didn’t get time to clean the kitchen before you go to bed? Will it kill you to clean it in the morning? Unless you’ve been cooking up crack, the answer is probably no it can wait til the morning.
Funnily enough on the usual-Bruce-Banner-Hulk-inducing rage-athon aka Sydney traffic jam that is the commute home from work, I was thinking about all the ways I could help myself (and my blood pressure) take the zen path instead of working myself up into a tizzy every time something small doesn’t go my way. Spilt coffee is just that. It’s not cause for the end of the world!
In the movie ‘Thanks for Sharing‘ Tim Robbins character has this great quote “Feelings are like children. You don’t want them driving the car, but you shouldn’t stuff them in the trunk, either.” Here are a few of my ideas on how to let it all go…
It happens automatically and we can control it. Breath all the way in and imagine your frustration & anger leaving your body with your breath on the way out. There really is a truth to the saying just take a deep breath!
Decide not to think about it. Turn off your mind or think about something else. Do something else. Just don’t think about it. Your mind may keep returning but you have the power to change your thoughts so just keep switching it off and in a short time you’ll be focused on other things.
Karma is a bitch.
For those of you who believe in what goes around comes around what better hands to leave your issues in than fate!
Harvard Psychology Professor Ellen Langer said “Stress isn’t an event. It’s the view you take of events.” We don’t have to let the stress of every day life dump all over others. Mindfully channel your stress into something productive; exercise is really good. Try running, boxing or Step class. Or take the calm approach like painting, yoga or tai-chi. It’s therapeutic.
Hire a soppy movie and cry yourself crazy or dance around your lounge room to 90’s pop. It makes such a difference!
Whether this means camping in the forest, walking around on the grass barefoot or swimming in the ocean, I’m a big believer in personal contact with mother nature!
Now everybody say ‘Woosah‘…. Whoooooosaaaaaaahhhhhh!