dont sweat the small stuff

One thing that you probably don’t know about me is that I’m a clean freak. Think Monica Geller clean freak. Uncleanliness & disorder make me very anxious and stressed.

Just ask my two girlfriends Grace & Tam, who have helped me obsessively clean on a Friday afternoon or have been present for a Melly meltdown when perceived filthiness is overwhelming!

Earlier this year I saw a therapist for a couple of months to help work through some issues (not specifically cleanliness related!) but she helped teach me how not to sweat the small stuff. Her diagnosis? That I’m self-actualised, highly demanding, emotionally rational but let anxiety build up inside me while I maintain an easy going exterior. It amazed me how talking to a complete stranger helped me articulate my issues and figure out how to work to resolve them all in a couple of short months.

While many of us often have deeper rooted issues to work through, just about all of us can relate to anxiety, frustration, anger or exasperation regarding the the smallest things. Hashtag first world problems!

So you didn’t get time to clean the kitchen before you go to bed? Will it kill you to clean it in the morning? Unless you’ve been cooking up crack, the answer is probably no it can wait til the morning.

Funnily enough on the usual-Bruce-Banner-Hulk-inducing rage-athon aka Sydney traffic jam that is the commute home from work, I was thinking about all the ways I could help myself (and my blood pressure) take the zen path instead of working myself up into a tizzy every time something small doesn’t go my way. Spilt coffee is just that. It’s not cause for the end of the world!


In the movie ‘Thanks for Sharing‘ Tim Robbins character has this great quote  “Feelings are like children. You don’t want them driving the car, but you shouldn’t stuff them in the trunk, either.” Here are a few of my ideas on how to let it all go…

Just breathe.

It happens automatically and we can control it. Breath all the way in and imagine your frustration & anger leaving your body with your breath on the way out. There really is a truth to the saying just take a deep breath!

Stop Thinking.

Decide not to think about it. Turn off your mind or think about something else. Do something else. Just don’t think about it. Your mind may keep returning but you have the power to change your thoughts so just keep switching it off and in a short time you’ll be focused on other things.

Karma is a bitch.

For those of you who believe in what goes around comes around what better hands to leave your issues in than fate!


Practice Mindfulness.

Harvard Psychology Professor Ellen Langer said “Stress isn’t an event. It’s the view you take of events.” We don’t have to let the stress of every day life dump all over others. Mindfully channel your stress into something productive; exercise is really good. Try running, boxing or Step class. Or take the calm approach like painting, yoga or tai-chi. It’s therapeutic.

Go Wild.

Hire a soppy movie and cry yourself crazy or dance around your lounge room to 90’s pop. It makes such a difference!

Earth yourself.

Whether this means camping in the forest, walking around on the grass barefoot or swimming in the ocean, I’m a big believer in personal contact with mother nature!


Now everybody say ‘Woosah‘…. Whoooooosaaaaaaahhhhhh!

Published by thisismelly

Mel @thisismelly lives a life of adventure, gets lost in farmer’s markets, regularly indulges in movies, loves to whip up gourmet meals in the kitchen, swears that one day she will learn to speak French properly, adores candles and fresh flowers, married her high school sweetheart, visited 19 countries and counting, fears an apocalyptic rage-virus, regularly spoils her cavoodle Harley, loves walking along the harbour, is decorated with ink, muddles her right & left, seasonally switches between blonde and brunette, has soul-mates, favours painted nails & dangly earrings, always orders the 'plateau de fromages', is obsessed with British or Scandinavian crime fiction, detests creepy-crawlies & people who take too long to order coffee, gives terrible directions, makes up crazy dances for her devilishly handsome husband, believes in good, would always be dressed in Saint Laurent, Gucci & Chloe if she could, adores Tex-Mex & Japanese, loves the smell of rain & evening jasmine, may be addicted to Instagram&Pinterest, is always on the hunt for a really good macchiato, is James Taylor’s biggest fan, gets rowdy with tequila, dreams every night, takes pickles, jalapeños & dried fruit for movie snacks, would hate a world without French champagne, adores Pantone 1765, almost always wishes she was lying on the sand in the sun, is an inconsistent Paleo convert and although she is a hopeless Francophile she will forever be smitten with Sydney.

6 thoughts on “dont sweat the small stuff

  1. Well how timely. I’ve been feeling so incredibly stressed lately about my house being messy. And if I think about it logically, it’s not actually all that messy. But its messy for me. So what did I do yesterday? I basically pulled an all nighter, cleaning and tidying obsessively to get it under control.

    As a result, today I feel exhausted. But happy and in control.

    Seriously, who stays up until the wee hours CLEANING?? #channellingcrazy

  2. Good day Mel, funny after over year following your words, ups and downs in life and clarion counting run a thons I can easily imagine you being a tad on the “neat queen” side. I say that with NO disrespect. I don’t think once you’ve ever posted with a hir out of place or wrinkle to be seen. Fit as a fiddle and smart as a whip always. This post as all of your others is insightful, helpful and beautifully expressed in a way that makes others understand it’s okay to be who you are and understand its okay to seek the advise of others. So bravo to you dear lady. I do hope Mr and the pup are well. It’s coming on winter here so I assume summer for you shortly. I look forward to this summers Barbie and food debentures.
    Much love an respect.

  3. Grace once made up an awesome jingle about you to the tune of the Spray ‘n’ Wipe ad… It’s part of you, we love you, don’t relax too much 💛💙💜💚❤

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