it’s a melly GIVEAWAY!

I’m a little bit speechless, a little bit squealy and a lot thankful…

for YOU; my follower friend
who has helped me reach 500 Melly-friends on [existential detective].

virtualhug Soooooo, to show my thanks, I’m doing a GIVEAWAY!!!!

Harley's happy to be judging the winner!
Harley’s happy to help out – he’ll be judging the winner! (TBA on how this will actually work….!)


a care package of a few of my favourite things

  • my favourite candle; Ecoya French Pear
  • my favourite tea; T2 French Earl Grey
  • my favourite chocolate; Haigh’s
  • “a mix tape”; a CD of a few of my fave tunes


  1. be a follower of moi on this blog [existential detective] (WordPress ‘follow’ button, BlogLovin’ or email subscription)
  2. leave a comment on this post
    1. telling me 3 random things about yourself
    2. and why you want to win
  3. fine print¹: there really isn’t any; I’ll post anywhere in the world and it’ll be completely random draw from a ‘hat’ so to speak (I’ve just go to figure out how Harley will draw the name out of the hat)!
  4. fine print²: I’ll close the comp on 8th June (Australian time) & upload a video post of the winner!

I don’t know what it is that made you follow me but thank you for doing it!

signature - melly xox

Harley photo bomb!


Twice a week, while we’re at work, our little Harley monster gets picked up by his dog walkers Happy Pets and roams the parks in Sydney
with his pack of furry pals!

They tweet his adventures so overzealous loving owners (like us) can see what he’s been up to (and why he smells so bad when we get home)!!!

Above is the pic from Tuesday this week; Harley photo-bombing his buddy Bugsy in Centennial Park. Pure gold Harley, pure gold!

wild at heart


Her wild tangled hair,
wearing a halo of  evening sunlight
like a majestic crown,
goes haywire,
when a sudden guest of wind,
in the manner of a lusty lover
play with it,
in every which way
one can imagine.
Waves of scent,
of freshly cut lemongrass,
emanating from her auburn tresses,
light wild fire
in his thoughts,
as they go down the hill,
through the narrow path
lined with trees full of roosting birds,
to the clearing in the forest
where stands
the lone hunters’ lodge
where they’d spend the night.
~K Balachandran~

coconut pancakes | paleo recipe of the week

paleo coconut pancake topped with sheep's milk yoghut & dragonfruit
paleo coconut pancake topped with sheep’s milk yoghut & dragonfruit

Paleo Coconut Pancakes

*this recipe makes 5 medium sized pancakes*


  • 2 eggs
  • 2 tbsp coconut oil, melted
  • 4 tbsp coconut milk (don’t shake the tin & take from the top)
  • 2 tbsp coconut flour
  • 1 tsp sugar (I use Xylitol)
  • 1/4 tsp salt
  • 1/4 tsp baking soda
  • additional coconut oil & butter for cooking


Blend eggs, oil, coconut milk, sugar & salt.
Combine coconut flour with baking soda and mix into batter.
Heat 1 tbsp coconut oil & a knob of butter in a pan or flat skillet. Spoon batter (about 2tbsp per pancake) into hot pan/skillet to make the pancakes.
Batter will be thick but will flatten out when cooking.
Makes 5-6 pancakes.

batter & cooking
batter & cooking


  • Peacan pancakes; mix 1/2 cup of finely chopped peacans into batter.
  • Blueberry pancakes; fold 1/2 cup crushed blueberries into batter.


weekend = bliss

what a wonderful weekend.

blue skies
sun shining
Harley in the park
friends sleepover
dinner @ Gallon
tapas & 
(too many) drinks
chocolate fondue
family time 

shameless selfie
shameless selfie
salmon, avocado, tomato, capers & basil
lunch – salmon, avocado, tomato, capers & basil
Friday blooms on my table
Friday blooms on my table
Chivas to the freakin weekend! (I'll drink to that)
Chivas to the freakin weekend! (I’ll drink to that)
perfect Saturday morning in the park
perfect Saturday morning in the park
Sydney Writer's Festival; seeing Carlos Ruiz Zafon talk about his novels
Sydney Writer’s Festival; seeing Carlos Ruiz Zafon talk about his novels

[pic from Neen]

afternoon snack; paleo coconut pancake with sheep's milk yoghut & dragonfruit
afternoon snack; paleo coconut pancake with sheep’s milk yoghut & dragonfruit
drinks that turned into dinner @ Gallon, Pyrmont
drinks that turned into dinner @ Gallon, Pyrmont
our dinner date; fave couple Ian & Neen
our dinner date; fave couple Ian & Neen
still drinking...
still drinking…

[pic from Neen]

I love this man....Jay & I
I love this man….Jay & I
Harley bear...
Harley bear…

this afternoon we had a horrible scare with Harley; out of the blue he had a seizure. He fell over with his legs all stiff, his jaw locked shut, eyes wide open and his head shaking. Jay held him while I called the vet who talked us through it until Harley came out of the seizure. He was drooling and still shaking on the way to the vet. Dr Nathan, who also has a little cavoodle, gave him a thorough check-up before giving him the OK and instructions for us to keep an eye on him and to remove any possible toxins from his environment (eg access to the ground coffee beans we put on the potted herb plants on the balcony). He may never have a seizure again, but then he could develop epilepsy.  But he’s OK now and back to his usual self, we just have to watch and hope for the best.

beautiful Harley
beautiful Harley – lying on me!

Hope you all have a wonderful weekend!

throwback thursday


before the divorce; before the drama & complex relationships, there were these two lovely creatures; my Mum & Dad.


after finding a photo album filled with old pictures, I have been feeling nostalgic and a little sad. it’s strange how the pain of my parent’s divorce lingers on my soul and feels heavy on my heart years after.

everything would have been different. but it’s not. and while I let myself mourn a little for the happy times we shared as a traditional family unit, I think of all the happiness my parents have gained in their life after.

I take a deep breath and remind myself that I do not, in fact, believe in regret and that I’m who I am today because of all the things I’ve experienced. I’m thankful that my parents are alive and made a decision for themselves that created their own happiness, and that while it was hard for me, it was a million times harder for them.

nothing is as bad as it sometimes seems and it’s true what they say; the sun shines after the rain.


languid hours in sun,
embedded in the autumn grass;
premature winter winds gently nudge while the last remnants of the summer sun haze around the edges like yesterday’s hangover

autumn in Sydney is a delightful season; 
clear skies, calm harbour
friends & family milking the last of the weekend sun with
picnics and footy in the park

this weekend we entertained friends at home,
grounded ourselves in the park,
enjoyed wine & food at a local festival

it’s grand,
this life of ours,
this love of ours


me, Jared & Michelle
me, Jared & Michelle

Michelle & Amanda
Michelle & Amanda
Syaz, Bianca & Ivan
Syaz, Bianca & Ivan
Pete & Jared
Pete & Jared


this isn't creepy at all!!!! random dolls in the trees on my walk
this isn’t creepy at all!!!! random dolls in the trees on my walk
beautiful Harley
beautiful Harley
Jay & Harley; earthing themselves
Jay & Harley; earthing themselves
Harley being a total weirdo. Honestly.
Harley being a total weirdo. Honestly.


Pyrmont Wine & Food Festival
Pyrmont Wine & Food Festival
Timezone for adults!!! Tickets = wine!
Timezone for adults!!! Tickets = wine!
Jay & I
Jay & I
we bumped into Jared & Pete!
we bumped into Jared & Pete!
Mudgee Rose wines - yum!
Mudgee Rose wines – yum!

happy weekend my friend

banana pancakes | paleo style


Remember when I wrote about becoming a cavewoman [this post]?  Well, it’s been three weeks living the paleo diet and I’m feeling fantastic. I’ve dropped a couple of kilograms as well!!!

I’m not a good baker on the best of days, so I’ve had a few kitchen fails with the paleo baking (burnt muffins, failed bread…) but these pancakes are awesome! I got the recipe from Ultimate Paleo Guide [here] but it’s not just for paleoists; they’re flour-free, gluten-free and tasty, so give them a try!

Paleo Banana Pancakes


  • 3 bananas, mashed
  • 3 eggs, beaten
  • 1/4 cup almond butter (like peanut butter but made from almonds)
  • butter for frying
  • toppings of your choice*

*if you’re paleo, keep it in the family. I topped mine with goats yoghurt, maple syrup & raspberries (but caramelized banana would have been awesome).

mixed ingredients
mixed ingredients


  • mix ingredients together, fry in batches
  • serve with toppings
  • feeds two people
fry it up!
fry it up!

Yummo!!! Enjoy!

West Elm Down Under

I can barely contain my excitement that West Elm has opened it’s first Australian store in Sydney!!!  West Elm has opened in Bondi Junction in the mall complex with it’s sister stores Pottery Barn and Williams-Sonoma.

westelm Bondi store | pic [via]





Williams-Sonoma, Pottery Barn and West Elm

The Exchange Building, Cnr Grosvenor St and Oxford St Mall
Bondi Junction NSW 2022

They also ship from their online store throughout Australia!